Blog of life 1
This is my first blog about life itself.
The first blog of The Great Chief Sitting Bull(totally renewed)
(Who has returned as an expert in Emotional Intelligence)
In it I will write about what life has taught me, and how I have learned, the hard way, to deal with Emotional Intelligence.
I hope to be able to convey my experiences to all of you in a simple and easy way.
So that everyone can understand them and thus draw their own conclusions.
If with this I contribute to improving someone’s life, even if it is just one person, the purpose will be fulfilled..
I hope I achieve it!
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July afternoon 2021 in Altea
A hot summer…
Like many others..
But this one has something different, something special.
We have the visit of a tourist that nobody wanted… and least expected!
A tourist who made life difficult for all of us, from the richest to the poorest.
Nobody has been spared from his presence, or at least his influence.
Today is a July afternoon in Altea.
Like any other in the month of July
Very hot by the way….
I don’t feel very well physically, and mentally either.
I don’t know if I have the Coronavirus or not.
I’ll find out at the weekend
In this case it’s the same, because you feel discomforts that you don’t know if they are real or if they are produced by your head, due to the ancestral fear that we all carry inside.
You can’t help but think about the negative consequences that having it would imply, with the well-known final risk of death..
But to tell the truth, that doesn’t worry me anymore.
Death.
I think I’ve written off my life.
I’ve already done a lot of crazy things…
I’m just afraid of going through the illness with the discomfort and suffering that comes with it.
Men are very scared, much more than women.
It might be because women are better prepared for the suffering of motherhood and menstruation.
I know some women who really have a hard time when they get their period.
I think that if that happened to us men, we’d think we were about to die.
Although the reality is that one gets used to everything, and at first we’d have a hard time but after a few times we’d take it with a beer.
How complex we human beings are!
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I wake up in the middle of the night….
Terror…
That’s what I feel!
But not because of how bad I might feel, but because of what might come!
How stupid I am!
I only had a fever of 38º and my head starts to imagine….
The reality is that I have no sense of smell or taste,
Clear proof that the bug is with me.
However, I confirm it with the test…positive!
I only had that little bit of fever one night
The next day I was already better
I am privileged… and lucky
Many have died, or at least had a terrible time
Not me.
It has only been my head that has tortured me… and how!
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After about a month, I recovered both senses: smell and taste
What took me the longest time was to get back to the physical shape I had before the bug
It was several months until I could start training again.
But luckily, my head did recover very quickly…
So much anguish and above all, so much time to think,
At least it helped me
To realize how ephemeral and fleeting everything is, how our life is.
And that we depend on so many factors that we cannot control,
That it is ridiculous to worry.
It is proven that more than 91% of the things that worry us, never happen.
Almost everything is in our mind
Our thoughts are what govern our life
Depending on how you think, so will you go.
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Dr. Angel Durántez, an eminence in anti-aging medicine, says that when treating a patient, the patient’s attitude towards aging is fundamental.
Key for his medicine to work correctly.
Great truth, because it is useless to eat very well, exercise and so on, if you do not have a positive attitude, and also…
“everything now seems like crap to you because before it was better…” (does that sound familiar?).
When I heard that and reflected on the attitude of most older people, I realized what had happened to me.
I had changed my way of thinking, and of reacting to the circumstances of life.
I have made such a big change in attitude, that at this moment I can assure, without any doubt, that I am another person.
I have returned to being, or rather, to bringing out, the child that we all carry inside.
And that with the logical physical limitations due to age, I can do whatever I want and whatever I set out to do with determination.
Let’s say that I have lost my fear of old age. I believe that life is too short to waste it with fears and frustrations.
The change has happened suddenly, a satori, as the Japanese call it…..
That is always the case.
You worry a lot about something that may happen, and sometimes for a long time, and one day, or rather in a moment, you come up with the solution that you had not seen before…
Well, that is what happened to me.
For 5 years I did nothing but worry about seeing how I was getting older and deteriorating, but without looking for solutions with a positive attitude and a lot of action.
I knew a lot of theory, but I did nothing to apply what I knew.
I had seen countless videos of all kinds: doctors, psychiatrists, physiotherapists, meditation gurus, etc., etc.
And this for months and months.
I studied a lot, and I became an expert in the subject (theoretical) on mind control. I knew for a fact that everything depends on our thoughts, and based on how we take things, that’s how we will go through them.
Given the same event, it’s not the same if you take it negatively or positively
The result, and the consequences, especially for yourself, will be very different.
Well, despite everything I knew, I was still affected by events, and not only events, but what was worse, my own thoughts, which most of the time were pure imagination!
Despite all that I meditated on and analyzed things, I couldn’t change them, I couldn’t get that click necessary to turn a negative thought into a positive one and eliminate it.
Until one night, meditating…, I received satori
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When Satori came to me, I saw everything so clearly that I couldn’t believe it!
Everything was just a click away in my head!
And at that moment my great change began.
It was all a matter of getting down to work and starting to move my ass!
And applying to myself everything I already knew!
What I had been putting off for 5 years!
I had to feel old and very worn out to decide to act!
How hard it is for us humans to get out of our comfort zone.
Obviously we don’t like sacrifice at all.
But friends, THIS IS THE BAD NEWS: there is no better option.
I’m telling you, I’m 74 years old and I’ve been doing sports ALL my life:
Either you get going as soon as possible, controlling what you eat, what you drink, and the exercise you do… or you screwed up!
Don’t let the moment come when it’s all too late
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I must confess that it was not easy. Nor fast.
Applying what I already knew.
I had to go through many very difficult situations to get to where I am today.
But based on going through hard times and a lot of perseverance and determination to achieve the goal, today, 3 years later, I can boast of having achieved it.
And I can now proudly confess, and without any doubt, that I am another person.
Today I am the Great Chief Sitting Bull (the Stoic Real Estate Agent)
And the best advice I can give you based on my life experience:
Start doing your homework at 40, because otherwise you may end up like me: I only changed when I saw that I was old and disabled, in other words, a mess!
Don’t get to that point!
They say it’s never too late… But if you avoid everything I went through, life will be easier for you.
Advice from a friend.
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PS: If you can and have the courage, put your phone in the toilet and buy a book that was the first one I read many years ago: it’s called Emotional Intelligence by David Goleman.
It will be the smartest thing you can do when you go back to school…
On my website I explain Emotional Intelligence in very simple words:
Emotional Intelligence
In future blogs, I will tell you more things.

